From Dating Apps to Erotic Portals - Emilia's interview

Sex is one of the more important elements of her daily life. For nearly a decade, she has been using various erotic portals and seems to be an expert on the subject. Today, she will share some of her experiences with these portals, her insights, and valuable advice - for example, on exchanging messages or arranging meetings.

Who Exactly Is Emilia?

She is 29 years old, lives in Gdańsk, and has been happily using erotic portals for nine years. Emilia is neither an OnlyFans star nor a controversial activist - she is an ordinary, intelligent, and very straightforward young woman who simply decided to be herself. In everyday life, she likes to be active, is interested in sports - especially calisthenics and tennis. For relaxation, she reads books or draws animals, which she loves very much - she herself has a dog and a rabbit.

In times when topics related to sex still cause controversy, and at the same time millions of Poles need and seek intimacy - including by creating accounts on dating portals or erotic sites - Emilia has a lot to say on this subject. She started with the first shy and drawn-out messages, only to later arrange wild threesomes and fulfill her deepest fantasies. Along the way, she learned valuable lessons about personal boundaries and respect for others. That is why her experience will be invaluable for anyone who does not know how to start a conversation with a girl on Tinder or on an erotic portal.

When asked how it all started and how she first came across an erotic portal, Emilia answers matter-of-factly:

I really like all kinds of adventures, and when I went to university, various sexual fantasies started appearing in my head, but I was afraid that people I knew would label me a sex addict if I started talking about it. I dreamed of some FwB in Gdańsk, but I didn't know how to meet a stranger for that kind of connection. Let alone approaching random men or women in clubs live, knowing nothing about them. Then somewhere I saw an ad for one of the portals and created an account. It was an impulse. That's how my next adventure began.

It is obvious that searching for sex dates or establishing a longer erotic relationship is simpler and faster via the internet. There we have greater anonymity if we want it, and most people who visit dating/erotic sites have clearly defined goals and expectations. There is also complete freedom to express yourself. However, when meeting people for sex, you should always remember about staying safe.

First Steps in the World of Dating

Emilia decided to start her adventure gently - at the beginning, she registered on popular dating apps Badoo and Tinder, where it took her quite a while to find matches and then message many people. It was a slow and cautious process of getting to know each other, eventually leading to polite date meetings. Even when she had already exchanged a few spicy messages before meeting, in real life the person would lose their previous courage. Over time, this started to bore Emilia and she became frustrated with wasting time and the lack of the desired end result.

It usually started the same way - greetings, the question "how are you?", talking about interests and daily life. Sometimes the breaks between messages were unnaturally long, even several days. Sometimes someone would summarize the story of their life. Sometimes it took weeks to arrange a meeting with one person, and it would finally happen. After the date, I was still disappointed anyway. Men often suggested they didn't know where to take me on a date in Gdańsk, even though the city is large and offers many possibilities. Even when someone promised that once we were alone, they would "tear my clothes off and lick me" or do this or that to me, in reality they would chicken out and it would end in nothing. Once or even twice I was completely stood up. I was really fed up with it.

This irritation led the girl to the next step - creating her first account on an erotic portal. This step was supposed to change everything.

A New Chapter of Sexual Adventures

This time Emilia came across completely different sites - strictly erotic portals. It was faster and simpler. All it took was browsing users' profiles and she already knew who was worth contacting, whether there was any common ground, or if someone appealed to her visually. Naturally, she skipped profiles without photos or a specific description - she could potentially waste a lot of time on them (again).

She found her place on these platforms. In general, the exchange of messages was more intense and concrete than on traditional dating apps. Between boring messages like "hey", there were numerous proposals to join a private swingers party or other forms of group sex. Often the conversation ended with arranging a meeting with a clearly defined plan or at least an outline. It happened that after a one-time meeting she continued the acquaintance if she felt like it.
The messages she liked the most started with a compliment about one of her photos, an original reference to her profile description, or were completely unconventional or humorous. Effective ones were also proposals where the person introduced themselves in more detail and attached an additional photo, preferably a fresh one. Even messages starting with ordinary questions straight out of a colorful magazine like "What is your favorite color and season?", "Do you like Korean cuisine?" or more abstract ones like "What would you do if you had a million dollars in your account?" were fine.

Among the texts that worked on me, there were also bold ones, but with an interesting addition. For example: "What sexual positions do you like? Tell me the first one and I'll guess the second!" or "Do you prefer to dominate or are you more submissive? After seeing how you treated that guy in the last photo, I don't know if I shouldn't be afraid of you." I also liked it when someone asked about my hobbies or it turned out we were interested in the same things. As for photos, both portraits and full-body ones are really nice, as long as they're not completely nude at the beginning. I like it when you can see on the photos that someone takes care of their body.

Of course, there were also messages or photos that could safely be put on the blacklist, but more on that in a moment. Emilia reveals that many of her experiences were rather positive. She met many people in various configurations, and many of them, like her, led a healthy lifestyle, which was their common denominator.

Fulfilling the Deepest Fantasies

The old frustration was gone, and Emilia could spread her wings. Many sex dates in Gdańsk hotels remain in her memory for a long time, but it is impossible to share all of them in such a short interview. If she wanted to describe everything, she would probably create at least a several-dozen-page book. So she decided to select a few interesting experiences.

Last year, Emilia met a well-built, tall brunette around 35 years old. When they were already arranging a role-play with a BDSM touch in one of the hotels in the city, he asked if another girl could join them. He was also writing to her and the same date suited her. Then he linked her profile in the message. Emilia checked the girl's profile, which she really liked. She wrote to her, had a verification phone call with her, and they arranged to meet the three of them on Friday evening.

I chatted with her a bit more separately, we agreed on some details that were supposed to be a surprise for our gentleman. She was a slim blonde of similar age to me and liked various BDSM elements. I think her name was Sylwia, and we called him Damian.

By then Emilia was no longer a novice and prepared well for the meeting, which she later described in detail.

In the hotel we had one drink each and relaxed a bit, the atmosphere started getting hotter as we slowly removed successive pieces of clothing. He was left only in a burgundy bow tie and boxers. I was wearing a black latex lingerie set, latex stiletto boots and a mask a bit like Catwoman. Sylwia was in red lace thongs, stockings and red stilettos, she had no bra. The foreplay started innocently, but then it got more and more vulgar. Bondage, whips and other gadgets. The two of us gave him a blowjob, then Sylwia rode him while I sat on his face - it was the best cunnilingus of my life. When she came, he started fucking me from behind and then Sylwia put on my strap-on and... you can probably guess what happened next. After a moment of shock, he even liked it! It was a really great evening. We met at least once more in this lineup, although he nicely asked not to use the penis prosthesis on him anymore. Too bad.

Valuable Advice

Not everyone is lucky enough to arrange a meeting with two women at once in a hotel. At the end, Emilia added a few tips especially for men reading the Wink3r blog who want to pick up a woman:

What can I recommend to guys from my perspective as a woman? We like it when someone courts us, when a man tries to develop the conversation. We value honesty, openness, and a sense of humor. We need to be treated with respect and you should try to interest us with your personality. It's good when a guy can boast about something he's good at - some achievements or simply a well-groomed, healthy figure. Above all, however, don't pretend to be anyone or anything - nothing pisses us off more than when it all comes out. I'm keeping my fingers crossed for you, gentlemen!

After the interview with our heroine, we collected a few tips hidden in her statements. They concern unpleasant messages and photos and serious red flags - i.e., what NOT to write (at all or at least not at the beginning) to people we want to get to know on an erotic portal, or what we should watch out for:

• Immediate vulgar sexual proposals, especially as the first message. This shows a lack of respect for her person and poor skills in building a substantive conversation.
• Immediate demands for nude photos do not work encouragingly if the recipient does not yet know if they are interested.
• Immediate sending of nude photos - women particularly do not like it when someone immediately asks if they want a picture of his manhood or, even worse, sends a picture of his penis without asking. It is usually perceived as tasteless by most women.
• Aggressive pushing for a meeting within a few messages and getting offended when someone refuses.
• Requests for money like "lend me for a taxi", "send me for fuel", "I have a problem with my account". These are examples of classic scams.
• Changing the topic to sex after 2-3 messages, completely ignoring what the other person is writing.
• Copy-paste texts - the message immediately looks like it was sent to 50 people at once when there is no reference to the interlocutor's profile.
• "Hi, what's up?" as the only message on an erotic portal is a sign that the person has no idea what they want, sends messages in bulk, or simply can't be bothered.
• Avoiding answers to specific questions or completely changing the topic will bury your chances.

Come to Wink3r

At the end of the conversation, we presented our site to Emilia and showed her how Wink3r works from A to Z. She liked the platform visually due to its consistent color scheme and clarity. In addition, navigating it is really intuitive.

The name is catchy and refers to the portal's theme, and the logo is memorable. Maybe it's because I like purple, I don't know. What surprised me the most, however, is that everything here is free - you don't have to buy a premium account or pay for messages because the limit has run out. That is definitely a huge advantage.

We invited the girl to create an account with us as soon as there are more users on the platform. She said she can't wait and wishes us a quick growth of the Wink3r community.

If you liked the interview, we have good news! You can count on more conversations with various interesting people in the future. We plan to create a whole series of interviews where everyone will find something for themselves.

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